This time, I want to go deeper. I am a deep thinker and I like getting down to the truth about things. In my day-to-day life, I always strive to get clearer on my life philosophies, principles, and ultimate goals. One of my goals is to write a New York Times Bestseller.
I do recognise that we live in a culture where quick gratifications are valued more than long-term investments, even when it comes to personal and professional development. The more you’re inclined to find shortcuts in your life, the more chances you’ll get to slip into the trap of trying to improve yourself and that shouldn’t be the goal. Unless, for you, it just comes down to living the “Instagram life”.
I also believe that there is no right or wrong way of learning or doing new things. There is only effective and ineffective ways. In our 20’s, consuming a lot of information could be very effective for our overall development. Whereas in our 30’s, it could cause friction in our learning progress.
We’ve got to constantly navigate through different stages of our growth and seek the right tools to get better, but not take shortcuts in our path to success.
You already won it
What the heck do people even mean by “life hack”? That I can hack my life? And then what, another productivity app on my iPhone?!
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against striving for efficiency in life. I am, however, all for making choices that lead to long-term progress. And to be able to make these types of choices, we’ve got to be in a right “place”. That place isn’t the top of the roof in the middle of the night. Well, I don’t know where you draw your inspiration from but what I do know is that life is to be thoroughly enjoyed, which doesn’t require any kind of hacking.
“Be sure not to discuss your hero’s state of mind. Make it clear from his actions.”
I like this quote because it’s self-explanatory. Our life, by default, is proof that we got a lucky ticket – we were born! Do you even know what the probability of you being born is? It’s one in 400 trillion!
And most people manage to lose their temper when their pizza is missing paprika.
For some people, it’s never enough of something, whether that’s money, warm weather, right information, right people, etc. This type of thinking breeds a desire to find shortcuts on the way to your goals.
Make a decision
Two years ago, I was speaking at a business event. After I finished, a girl approached me to ask a few questions and we started a conversation. She explained that she just graduated her university and had multiple interests. She didn’t know what direction to take and also felt paralysed by the fact that she couldn’t make her mind up.
I replied and told her that I had a similar experience. In fact, we all had or will have. I continued by explaining that there is no wrong choice in what to do next. But it’s important to realise that every time you think about your next step, you give away your main resource: time. To really find out whether something is right for you, you have to give it a go.
Sometimes decisions are shaped through experiences. It’s when we aren’t clear on what to do next. I especially find it with people who are very ambitions, have big goals, but don’t yet know how to connect them with their their reality.
I found that clarity on what to do next comes from taking risks and trying new things. In other words, taking action. As a famous executive coach, Marshal Goldsmith, once said: “What got you here won’t get you there”. But how many times do we try to do the same things in the same old ways and expect different results?
I don’t want to sound like a self-proclaimed personal development guru but at times I get the impression that some people are afraid of fully living their lives, as if they could be punished for living it in the wrong way or not according to how a life is “supposed” to be lived. That’s mainly due to what we think about ourselves and what we are really capable of.
But this is not realistic. We don’t really know our true potential until we do something with it. But to get it real, we’ve got to have a clearer idea of what we think about ourselves.
Most of the thoughts and ideas which pass through our heads do not have real value until we create a meaning and start to believe in it full-heartedly. In her article, psychotherapist, Nancy Colier, explains how we can call ourselves out on all the irrelevant thoughts that come into our heads.
Of course, you can meditate on it but keep in mind, the main idea is for you to want to learn how be real to yourself. The world already imposes pressure to be fake, so don’t create more layers of never-ending masks that get you emotionally lost on the journey of your personal success.
It’ time to get around real people. If you are an entrepreneur, find those who have integrity and want to do business in a transparent and meaningful way. If you’re a creative, make sure you start hanging out with folks who are passionate about their craft but are also are open to sharing their experience.
Know that living your life on your terms requires you to do a combination of a triple axel and a quadruple jump. You can get it right but with no shortcuts my friend.