How To Become the Hero of Your Own Life’s Movie

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Imagine a regular guy or girl just like you, living a regular life…

They’re an alarm snoozer addict who only really wakes up after their second cup of coffee. Their first emotional engagement happens when they’re expressing their anger at the entire line of traffic on their way to a job where they find themselves looking at the clock every five minutes in anticipation for 5 pm.

5 pm on a Friday — the hour of freedom.

Oh, what a passionate sense of urgency they feel when they realise that it’s 5 pm on a Friday and there’s so much not to do over the weekend. Of course, the life is so precious to them that every Saturday night sees them and a couple of friends, who always ensure that their beloved friend has drunk and eaten enough for his Sunday to be the most productive and extraordinary day of the week.

Sunday, they awaken at a time between 12 and 2 pm — a disciplined behaviour developed throughout the years of deliberate practise and dedication.

This person’s talents don’t end there. They also possess a creative talent for watching Netflix for long hours without getting too restless. Even when he doesn’t want to, they still push themselves to the edge of their potential. Surely, no other human being can endure so much stillness in one day?

Quite often, this enormous effort to do absolutely nothing on a Sunday leads to the profound and life-changing realisation that tomorrow is Monday and it’s time hit the repeat button.

Now, let’s take a step back.

If we made a movie based on this person’s life, would you enjoy watching it? I doubt it.

Now, have a little look at your own movie. How do you like it? What genre is it in? Do you see more drama? Or maybe your movie is an epic saga. Who are the main characters and how do they fit into the movie? Do you anticipate anything good or bad when watching it? How do you feel when you watch your own production?

And most importantly, who directs your movie? Are you really the one who’s in charge? What type of obstacles do you meet in the process?

It doesn’t really matter that much what answers have to these questions. What matters is whether you’re inspired by them.

But if you’re not then I suggest you try the following…

Write a new script

Almost every movie star had a breakthrough. A movie that changed everything for them, where they played and embodied their favourite character.

But before an actor takes on a role, they first read the script, written by some scriptwriter. But when it comes to your movie, I’d advise you to not outsource such a task to even the best scriptwriter in the world. If your budget allows you, hire him as a mentor and then write the actual script yourself.

The most fascinating thing about life is that we have no clue what’s coming. I’m sure you understand that script writing happens every day of our lives.

The reason why most of us can’t change our script is that we believe that it’s not within our power to do so. But in reality, you can simply press the stop button and start writing a new story. It doesn’t require an extraordinary amount of effort or possessing superpowers. It requires one and very simple thing: awareness.

Let me explain what I mean by that…

Make yourself a successful actor

No matter what role you’ll be playing — and you’ll be playing a lot of them over the course of your life — you want to make sure you can easily change hats and be comfortable with it. And to do that successfully, you need two things: observation and continuous improvement.

Put yourself in the shoes of an observer and watch how your movie is unfolding in front of you. Start examining the inner states of your actor. Watch how you react in different situations, how you co-create with other actors and pay close attention to your actor’s behaviour.

What do you see? Can you recognise anything that’s not aligned with the script you’ve written? If so, then what would you like to change? In other words, what does your actor need to do to learn in order to make your movie a breakthrough?

There are other actors just like you and you can learn from them. But never compare your work with theirs. You should always focus on performing your play and mastering your craft. As the Stoic philosopher, Epictetus, once said: “Man is disturbed not by things, but by the views he takes of them”.

It was also quite interesting to hear what Naval Ravikant, co-founder of Angelist, said on the Tim Ferriss Show: “If you start treating your life as if your life was a movie, you take a positive view on everything.” You can listen to this show here.

Be the hero in your own eyes

The biggest compromise you can make is to not see yourself as your own hero. Seeing yourself this way comes with knowing what you want, what you stand for, what you believe in, and what you say to yourself.

It’s important to value yourself highly simply because no one else will do it for you. So it’s your job to work on your positive self-image and self-talk. The things we say to ourselves and how we feel about ourselves play a tremendous role in our personal happiness and success. And yet, they are often disregarded, as if no one cares about themselves deeply.  

Imagine you’re a kid, meeting your adult self. Your reaction should be: “Wow, I want to be that person when I grow up!”. That’s when you know you’re the hero of your own life’s movie.

Finally, it’s you, it’s your life, you can’t waste your time and energy just like that. I forbid you! Instead, you can do something great with it. Think about how many people could benefit from you being your best and producing something of value.

Be whoever you want to be. Only don’t be that person who lives just a regular life and hits the snooze button to put off waking up to their reality.

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